6 Months Later

Hey Everybody,

Sorry it has taken so long to get pictures posted! Rebecca is looking amazing and she feels good too! We will try to get new post up more regularly, sorry :(!! Thanks for Loving Us!!

Preperation PNF

Excitement is in the air!!! Next Friday we leave for our summer vacation, we are headed to Niagara Falls and Pennsylvania. We will start our trip going straight to see one of Gods most amazing creations and then we will go have a great treat at HERSHEY’S CHOCOLATE WORLD http://www.hersheys.com/discover/hcw.asp. Then we plan one more stop to Gettysburg,PA http://www.gettysburg.com/ to see the amazing site where Gen. Robert E. Lee's invasion into the North was stopped.

We are all so excited and cannot wait to leave, all of us for our own reason. The kids are extremely eager to swim in all the pools, play on the hotel playgrounds, and drop some coin in the arcade room. Rebecca and I are ready to get away from work and have a little fun playing but we are not looking forward to buying the gas, you gotta take the good with the bad.

Replacments

Alrighty then... Yet another exciting day in the Miller household. Don't ya just love it when all you are trying to do is make it by and the things of life make you take a step back and reallocate time, priorities and funds. I had no greater joy yesterday than to write a check for a new window!! Let me tell you this story.

On Thursday may 8th, Rebecca was not home yet and I was finishing up dishes form dinner, my mother was playing soccer with my 8yr old (Noah) and my 3yr old (Nathan) in the den (something that would have most likely not been allowed in her house, if she had one) about 15 mins. into "the game that should not have been happening" Nathan runs in the kitchen to let me know that Noah had broken something. I walked into the den to see Noah crying like Niagara falls and saying "I hate my life, why am I so stupid" and then my mom saying sooo innocently "Noah broke the window" so there we are a week and a half later and $160 less and we have a new window.


Now mom is a different kind of replacement... I was trying last night to encourage her to find a place of her very own; I found her a place, an apartment nearby and I told her that I thought that it was in her price range. Her response.. "well if that's what you want me to do". How do you explain to a 57 yr old women that a recliner and a corner to place your things is NOT a home???? Rebecca and I of course love her dearly, but our 2200 sq ft home is becoming ever so small. What to do, what to do? We are starting to wonder if (a) she wants to ever leave and (b) will she ever find her own replacement. ???????? This means, I don't know!!

Family Picture (-Mom)

Family Picture - Mom

Rant and Rave

So we are on week 6 of having my 57 yr old mother living with us and I feel it taking its toll on us all. It's kind of like the week at the beach when its a Sat. - Sat. rental and by Tues. everyone is desperately searching for their own piece of quiet and tranquility to no avail. Yea that's where we are!!! In these times it's when I am reminded why I left home and moved out on my own. She has had a cold this week -weekend and has been home instead of at work or out and about so with her staying in our living room (b/c all of our rooms are occupied w/ kids) it has Rebecca and me searching for the last bit of our home that is sacred.

It is when you get to this point that everything starts to get on your nerves from not looking for her own residence to using the last of the laundry detergent and not replacing it. I struggle to dig down deep and remember that I am to help her get back on her feet with the love and compassion of Christ, but it is soooo hard to do sometimes. I know that we are not the only ones in this situation. What to do, what to do? Casting Crowns says: "Love them like Jesus, carry them to him. His yoke is easy, His burden is light!!

This whole blogging thing is very therapeutic!!!

God Bless

Now let's get started!!

Now that you know some of who I am let me catch you up to speed. Rebecca and I have been through an amazing amount of tribulation since we were married on July 25 1998. I believe that this is how God drew us closer to each other and to Him.

Flash back with me to July 25 1998, I was 20 yrs old and Rebecca 18; both of us so excited to start our lives together. Since then we have dealt with ,raising 1 son, losing a daughter, infidelity, overcoming infidelity, then 2 boys,a miscarriage, 3 boys, and now... my mother. We have dealt with all this while rebuilding trust and an insatiable love and passion for one another. I truly adore, and admire my wife for who she is and all she does and how she has forgiven.

Now 30 and 28 we see life through different sets of lenses than we did 10 yrs ago. Thank God!! Rebecca and I see things through God filtered but also humanistic lenses. I was blessed with a second chance to somehow get things right with my family and also spiritual life. My past has led me to my future and without each piece of it something along the way would NOT have worked out the way it did. The Lord has ALL the plans for me, which He holds.

Introduction

Hi, My name is Troy Miller. I am a seemingly normal person, however you might define that. I am married to my high school sweetheart (Rebecca) of 10yrs (almost) and we have 3 beautiful boys (Noah, Nathan, and Neil) and 1 daughter (Dallas) that God called after 27 days of life ( I miss her dearly). We live a pretty normal life (as normal a one can be with 3 energetic boys) and serve in our church - Ebenezer Baptist (Durham). My hopes are to use this opportunity to share with others my struggles with parent hood, relationships, spirituality, and anything else that comes up along the way. Please join me as we walk on the "blogger wild side" and tackle issues relevant to use all.